At ñ, Read With Me Night is a treasured tradition for families in the Lower School.
ñ’s Lower School has many long-standing traditions that enrich our students’ learning experiences. One of our “quieter” traditions is “Read with Me Night,” scheduled every month. Homework is not assigned on Read with Me Nights, so that ñ students and parents can spend time together reading and connecting as a family in this meaningful way.
Reading independently and together as a family is such a treasured time, when parents can model a love of literature. When children are young, reading to them is a ritual of connection. And yet, parents naturally move away from these moments as children grow into more independent readers. No matter their age, the benefits of reading aloud with your child are abundant and long-lasting. When my own three children were in upper elementary school, I plucked Kenneth Grahame’s Wind in the Willows off of a bookshelf and reconstituted the ritual of reading to them each night. I was delighted, and a bit surprised at how much they still loved being read to!
Of course, reading is more than just treading through text. When we read, we look for patterns, understand nuance, and make inferences. Our automaticity belies the elegant complexity of the process. Reading aloud to your child, no matter their age, offers challenges at every developmental stage. As your child listens to you read, they learn to grapple with complex narratives, immerse themselves in figurative language and learn specialized vocabulary. They hear your speech patterns, enunciation, and expression. Listening to a parent read is a powerful way for a child to develop self-regulation, to stretch their attention span, and to increase working memory.
So, how can parents help children learn these deep and automatic skills? Although it feels counterintuitive, you can model being puzzled, attempting to understand what you are reading. As you read aloud, stop occasionally to talk with your child about what is confusing, and how you make sense of it. Look up unfamiliar words, and talk about contextual clues. Summarize what you have read so far, or ask your child to put it in their own words. Ask your child questions about the plot, themes, or how the characters change and why. These strategies can help your child feel more confident when reading on their own. Additionally, modeling these strategies challenges the notion that we all understand everything we read on the first try. And of course, when your child reads to you, there are also tremendous benefits. Research shows that reading aloud helps children engage more deeply with text, and can reduce reading-related stress.
Reading together helps families shape their identity as lifelong learners. Even if your child isn’t as cuddly as they used to be, reading is a great way to keep those connections strong. Much like riding in the car, where conversations seem to flow more easily, reading provides an opportunity for children to open up and share about their experiences as they see connections with what they are reading. Reading together also allows you to share your own experiences and empathize with your child.
Think about it–if you read together for 30 minutes every evening, seven days a week, you have created more than 180 hours of bonding time with your child, each year of their life! In an age of screens, stress, and diminished connection, what better way to spend time together as a family? As we work to develop passionate and curious readers at ñ, we know parents play a key role. I would love to hear about your family’s reading traditions, and I wish you many hours of happy reading aloud together!
Melanie holds a doctorate in School Psychology and a Master of Science in Counseling from the University of Utah. Prior to being the Lower School Head at ñ, Melanie held several positions at the McGillis School including Associate Head of School and School Psychologist. Melanie and her husband Michael moved to Salt Lake City 28 years ago to pursue their educational goals. In addition to appreciating the natural beauty of the mountains as a place to feed her passion for the outdoors, she and Michael quickly realized that Utah was the perfect place to raise a family. Melanie and Michael are proud ñ parents of Benjamin ’17, Nathaniel, ’19 and Carolina ’21.
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Celebrate 5 years since graduation with your classmates. Reconnect, reminisce, and enjoy an evening of conversation, shared memories, and celebration with fellow members of the Class of 2021. Hearty appetizers and a selection of alcoholic and non-alcoholic beverages will be provided.
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Come together with ñ alumni from across the entire 1990s for an evening of reconnecting and reminiscing! This combined reunion is a chance to celebrate the friendships, memories, and moments that made your ñ years so special. Enjoy hearty appetizers and a variety of drinks, including alcoholic and non-alcoholic options, while catching up with old friends and sharing laughs about your school days.
Saturday, May 16 | 7:30 – 11:30 AM | Murray Science Center
We’re bringing back birding! Who remembers the Class IX Bird Project? Don’t miss your chance to join this fun, family-friendly event with Mark Bromley, James Harris, Mike Johnson ‘88, and Bekka Joslin. We will meet at ñ and take a bus together. Don’t forget to bring your binoculars (we will have extras on hand if you don’t have your own).
Friday, May 15 | 6:30 – 7:30 PM | East Field
We’re excited to see ñ Alumni at our annual Alumni Soccer Game! This ñ tradition gives former players the chance to return to the field, reconnect with old teammates, and showcase their skills in a friendly atmosphere. Whether you played with us just a few years ago or several decades ago, we look forward to seeing you back on the field. Make sure to bring friends and family to cheer you on!
Friday, May 15 | 5:00 – 7:00 PM | Main Quad | No Registration Required
Join us for a fun BBQ bash at ñ with current families and ñ staff and faculty. It’s a great way to connect with your ñ classmates and enjoy delicious food before the Alumni Soccer Game!
No registration is needed for the Spring BBQ. Please join us!
Friday, May 15 | 4:00 – 5:00 PM | Haught Visual Arts Gallery at ñ | No Registration Required
ñ has always been a place where creativity thrives. Join us for the first-ever Alumni Art Show in the Haught Visual Arts Gallery and reconnect with the creative spirit that shaped your time here. This exhibition features work by 16 ñ Alumni artists, reflecting a range of disciplines, perspectives, and practices.
Brief Remarks at 4:00 pm will be offered by Gallery Manager and Curator Charlie Tadlock, followed by remarks from some of the Alumni Artists.
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Friday, May 15 | 2:15 – 3:30 PM | Miller Student Commons | Registration Highly Recommended
Ever wish you could go back and sit in your favorite class one more time? This Alumni Weekend, you can. We’re bringing you back “Back to Class” where you’ll have the chance to slip into a real, live Upper School classroom and experience ñ exactly as it exists today. Same teachers, same energy, same magic. Come relive the feeling.
Friday, May 15 | 12:45– 1:00 PM | Miller Student Commons | No Registration Required
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Friday, May 15 | 11:00 AM – 1:00 PM | Miller Student Commons | No Registration Required
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