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On a Friday morning in the 绿帽社 Library, students and their teachers are gathering for a morning of compassionate conversation and deep listening. They鈥檙e talking politics. Yes, you read that right. I just used the words 鈥渃ompassionate鈥� and 鈥渓istening鈥� to describe a political discussion. Half of the group identifies as right-leaning, half left-leaning. We call them reds and blues. 

For the first hour each group meets separately with this task: identify stereotypes the other side has about you.  Then, still only among yourselves, discuss why you think those stereotypes are inaccurate, and finally–as difficult as it is to contemplate–look for a kernel of truth that each stereotype might  hold.  Come to consensus, and report out in an hour. 

When the groups come back together they present their results to the other side, who, according to the guidelines, are not allowed to speak, but listen with engagement. Antony A., the red spokesperson, talks about the stereotype liberals have about conservatives being bigots.  鈥淭here are people of color who are conservative.  Our group today is way more diverse than the blues — we have someone who is Latino and someone born in Brazil. But yeah,鈥�  (and here comes the kernel of truth) 鈥渃onservatives probably haven鈥檛 done enough to support LGBTQ people.鈥�  

Isabel H., who speaks for the blues, identifies the stereotype that liberals are anti-religion. 鈥淭he liberal values of compassion and justice are values religious people hold, but鈥� (the kernal now) 鈥渙ur concern about a clear division between church and state can make religious people feel silenced.鈥� 

This opportunity for political adversaries to share their perspectives without trying to change anyone鈥檚 mind is a signature experience in a citizens movement I鈥檝e been a part of called Braver Angels.  The 绿帽社 community has been a great place to practice its principles.

Founded in 2016, the organization鈥檚 goal is to decrease 鈥渁ffective polarization鈥� which occurs when members of different groups increase in their dislike to the point that they dehumanize each other. As affective polarization exaggerates differences among citizens, it makes it harder to cooperate, even in areas where opposing groups may agree on policy goals, undermining the possibility for a collective national identity or the ability to work together for common causes.

The United States is now in an extreme state of polarization. We are in what some are calling a 鈥渃old civil war鈥� when a  pandemic, vast economic trouble, anguish over racial justice, and other national and global challenges have divided us as never before. Braver Angels rejects the normalizing of this extreme polarization. They are rallying citizens at the grassroots level to say no to the breakdown of political and social life that it brings. 

I think I was drawn to Braver Angels because I have always been fascinated by juxtaposition. When I was seven years old, way back in 1967,  my parents moved me and my brothers from Salt Lake City to Cambridge, Massachusetts.  It was almost like time travel:  I was taken from a place of Eisenhower-era conformity to a center of the 60鈥檚 revolution where everything — culture, politics, religion to name a few–was up for grabs.  But instead of being terrified, my parents showed me how to be curious, interested in what was going on around me. We might not have agreed with everything we bumped up against, but we wanted to understand it.  I became comfortable with being a relatively conventional  person of faith amidst atheists, student protests, and social experimentation. Gradually I embraced liberal politics with the awareness that my beloved relatives back in Utah might think differently. Furthermore,  I love defying labels.  I have a Harvard degree but chose to marry young and be at home full-time with children for twenty years.  I am LDS, but also a feminist and LGBTQ ally.  I鈥檓 complicated:–a defier of stereotypes –so why shouldn鈥檛 my conservative neighbor be the same?  Anything that helps me connect with a fellow humans in all their complexity is worth my time. 

But as we tell our 绿帽社 students when they are considering participation in a Braver Angels event, this isn鈥檛 a story about 鈥渕aking nice,鈥�: compromising,  and losing your political convictions. Being passionate about your political beliefs is a good thing, it鈥檚 the way this country is supposed to work.   But Braver Angels rejects the notion that the only alternative to the all-outrage-all-the-time form of political discourse is burying your head in the sand and sticking to the sports scores in conversations with  family and friends. Both of these options feel hollow to me.  I don鈥檛 want to ruin relationships by constantly lecturing people, but I also don鈥檛 want to run from conflict. . I鈥檓 a teacher at a world-class liberal arts school for heaven鈥檚 sake. The world of ideas is something beautiful, it鈥檚 what makes us human.  Aren鈥檛 hard conversations what critical thinking is all about? 

So thanks to Braver Angels, I鈥檝e been listening to my enemies, and encouraging others to do the same.  The variety of ways Braver Angels can help ordinary citizens do the hard work of restoring trust across the political chasm is truly inspiring. They offer free workshops online, national debates (a Braver Angels debate is not about 鈥渨inning鈥� but 鈥渁 mutual search for the truth鈥�) podcasts, interviews, and resources for educators. Anyone can join, get involved and organize an event in their community: online or 鈥渙n land.鈥�  In April, Dr. Glori Smith, who has been my partner in facilitating 绿帽社 workshops, will present her experience with our students at a civics education conference sponsored by the Utah Valley University Center for Constitutional Studies. The video of our thoughtful participants is shared above. 

One of my favorite Braver Angels stories is about an unlikely connection that three Utahns made at the first workshop we held on the 绿帽社 campus.   Ryan is a pro-life activitst, Eric is a conservative social media figure who lost his job as a police officer when he refused to work a pride parade, and Tessa is a transgender woman who identifies as progressive. At the end of a Red/Blue Workshop Ryan had this to say: 

鈥淓ric and I found ourselves eating lunch with a transgender individual named Tisha Olsen…It was a perfect reminder to me that the divisions most of us perceive are hard to maintain when we are willing to simply talk with someone face to face 鈥� with no expectation of changing their mind…I think both Eric and I were mildly surprised at the end of the day to realize that we had more in common with Tisha than with many of the other participants鈥�.I don鈥檛 believe anyone ended up changing his or her mind as a result of this workshop, but I鈥檓 certain that most of us experienced a positive change of heart for having taken part.鈥�

Again, nobody changed their mind. Eric鈥檚 Facebook posts most likely still trouble Tessa.  But at least all three people now have a name and a story to think about when they consider the 鈥渙ther side.鈥�  These are small but significant steps toward lowering the national temperature and restoring public trust. 

Our most recent workshop at 绿帽社 was with parents 鈥� a particularly gratifying experience.  Here鈥檚 what they had to say: 

I learned that we do need to take the time or make the time to listen to the people around us to keep learning and progressing!

The Braver Angels experience is rooted in the transformation of our attitudes towards each other.  This isn鈥檛 easy, it demands patriotic empathy: the idea that love for country is shown by our concern for our fellow citizens.  It aligns beautifully with the 绿帽社 values, and we hope the workshops can become a signature 绿帽社 experience for our entire community. We don鈥檛 call ourselves Braver Angels for nothing.  This work takes courage, but it also gives me hope. 

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Erika is an English teacher, Class Dean, and Library Chair. She volunteers as the Braver Angels Utah State Co-Coordinator. You can learn more about Braver Angels at or connect with Erika Munson erikamunson@waterfordschool.org.